Thursday, August 2, 2012

Seeking The What?

A few weeks ago I was contacted through Twitter by the White Bear Press, the local paper in my town.  It is delivered every Wednesday (although THIS Wednesday, oddly enough they eßaaeskipped our house.)  It is a good little paper, of course, because it has stories of the community, which interest me.

They wanted to do a story about my recovery and my blog.  I am excited about recovery and this blog, so it was at this point, a no brainer.   The editor said she had run across my blog, and thought they could do a good piece on it.  So I met her for coffee, she interviewed me, and it went very well.

I was excited to read the article.  So when I went to the mailbox to get it, and it wasn't there, I stole my neighbor's copy.  Right?  I had no choice.  Thanks Cathy!!  (I replaced it within an hour)

To my HORROR, here is what the title said.

Oh. My. God.  How embarrassing.   Here is the thing.  I didn't seek the limelight.  I was approached by Hazelden and ABC for the television interviews.  AND White Bear Press contacted me through Twitter.  I didn't seek anything, they sought me.  My purpose to agreeing to do those interviews and why I do this blog are to raise awareness and to connect with people who are going through the same kinds of things.  

The program that I work and learned at those meetings is very clear about us coming from a place of attraction, rather than promotion.  Letting others recommend us.  When I was called upon to help carry the message of recovery with the television and newsprint interviews, I thought long and hard about what that would mean, and what good it could bring versus what hurt it could do to me and other people like me.  I decided, with the help of my friends, that it was a form of service as a grateful recovering addict/alcoholic.  

There is a part of me that likes attention.  Of course, one would have to if they were going on national television to say that they are a drug addict.  The shy folks are not going to sign up for something like that.  Lets face it, I was the girl for the job.  

Aside from the title, the article is good and she did a nice job getting all of the details in there.  I am grateful they wanted to talk about addiction and that I could help in that way.  That is what is important.  

By the way, everyone in my family knows the truth about my addiction now.  No more secrets.  

Below is the link to the article.  Once I read the title in the printed version, I emailed her and asked her to PLEASE change the online title.  She was more than happy to do that.  

You obsess that the people in your town will think you are seeking fame. 


  1. Oh geez... glad she agreed to change the title. Once I had an article written in a "professional women's magazine" about me. It described me as a "fair woman with delicate skin." It was awfully embarrassing. My brothers and dad still make fun of me for it.

    1. Ha! It could be worse I suppose. I guess when we put ourselves out there, we have no control as to what people will say about us. It's all words. Still though. Ouch.

  2. "The program that I work and learned at those meetings is very clear about us coming from a place of attraction, rather than promotion."

    Honey, that same program emphasizes ANONYMITY at the level of PRESS, RADIO and FILM. Why not do the interview without a picture or revealing your last name? You can still accomplish your purpose, if your purpose is truly to help people.

    Anonymity is a spiritual principal, not one based on shame. It protects the program, but it also protects your sobriety by helping you to exercise a little humility while working for something bigger than yourself.

    1. I see your point. But I didn't represent a program in that interview. I thought long and hard about my motives when I was asked to do the ABC interview. I asked for LOTS of guidance from the people in my program AND my advisor at school. I agreed with her when suggested that sometimes breaking anonymity adds to removing the shame and stigma of addiction. Doing that, more people can ask for help, more funds will be available for treatment centers and research, and for me personally, it holds me accountable to a lot more people than just myself. Which in turn, helps me stay sober. I never mentioned the exact groups I belong to, and so I didn't break a tradition either.

      I don't pretend to understand and boast about my knowledge of these such things. I just know that I am not seeking the limelight. I am only trying to stay sober.

  3. What sucks is that the article WAS really good. Makes the title all the more baffling. I'm glad she changed it for you though. Here's the thing....those of us who read and enjoy your blog know where your heart is. You are so brutally honest about everything when it comes to your life, if you were seeking fame, I'm pretty sure that you would tell us. I'm pretty sure we would still love you too. :)