Monday, August 19, 2013

First sober wedding

Up until now I was fairly sure I would never really dance again. Like, I haven't gone out dancing in years. And I used to LOVE to dance. Dance dance dance. 

But of course, as I left the house less and less due to drugs, lack of sitters, and then being afraid of the world, we didn't go clubbing much. Or ever. 

And also since I haven't been invited to a wedding in YEARS, I haven't had the chance to dance. Nor have I wanted to. I was pretty sure my moves without booze were gone for good. And I just accepted this as part my sobriety is more important than dancing. 

Bob was the Best Man in his little brother's wedding tonight.  It was a beautiful ceremony with a mix of Buddhism and Christianity. I loved watching Bob's brother and his wife, who are so in love, get married at such a beautiful place, at the MN Boat House, downtown St. Paul, on Raspberry Island, on the Mississippi River. Best ceremony I've ever been to. His wife has the coolest family.  

I really wanted to show my kids a good time. The youngest two had never been to a wedding.  

So I danced my ass off. And I did it without one single drink. People were drinking HEAVILY all around me, It didn't even bother me. I was on the floor with my kids all night long, showing the kids you can still have fun without drinking.  

I was sweaty and breathing hard. It was so much fun. It reminded me that I can still party hard. Just sober. If you think I'm full of shit, I promise you I am not. It was just as much fun sober. This is the kind of stuff that makes me SO HAPPY because I didn't think it was possible. It is possible. 

Even Bob got out there for 1/8 of a song. Not the way we used to do it, but nothing really is anymore, right?  Big day for a guy who struggles with anxiety at that level.

My 12 year-old claimed that his "dance moves are so spectacular, that it puts people into a vortex that they have trouble getting out of." So he was a wallflower. 

We were outta there by 10:45. But most people were. That's probably because it was a Sunday night. The wedding party were still rocking when we left.  

I hope I get invited to more weddings. Because I love to dance, but I'm getting a little old for da club, yo. 

DeGree's looking fancy

View from dinner. 

I want to live in that yellow boat house, so if anyone wants to buy it for me that would be great.

I will say that I woke up this morning with a bad headache. And I didn't smoke, drink or anything. MAYBE IT WAS THE DANCING THAT CAUSED ALL OF THOSE HANGOVERS!!  I guess I didn't drink enough water. Still a great night. 


  1. Yay! You can always have DeGree dance parties in your living room!

  2. i love that location of the wedding looking over the water. Wow!
    So glad you had a blast and showed the kids that people who are sober can have just as much fun. xoxo

  3. I have loved learning that being wasted doesn't need to be part of the Fun Equation. Glad you had a rockin' time :)