The other day, one of my sweet twins told me that a kid in their school has a mother who won't let him hang out with them because their dad is "psycho."
My guess is that she came to that conclusion because she must read my blog.
Welcome, uninformed person!
I am not sure where you would get the idea that my husband (who is my soon-to-be-ex) is a psycho. And what a terrible word to teach your child. If I were ignorant enough to use that word, I would direct it at a person who teaches their child to discriminate against people who are mentally-ill.
The media has done a GREAT job of making our veterans with PTSD look like savages. I can tell you first hand, that this isn't true. Yes, there is a higher rate of domestic abuse, divorce, drug addiction, and other nasty things that can come with people who have PTSD. In fact, as you may already know, we are getting divorced. But importantly, we are IN RECOVERY from drugs and alcohol And that man has never laid a finger on me. He may say some things like "my money" or "how are you going to make it without my money" as a way to control me. Only because he wants to remain married. BUT THAT IS THE WORST OF IT AT MY HOUSE. I'm the mouthy one here. For sure.
He wouldn't hurt a fly. In fact, I have trouble getting him to kill flies. He won't. He won't even kill centipedes. And lets face it, those things NEED TO GO!
In the parking lot at school the other day, I was debating whether I should approach you and educate you. One of my twins said, "DO IT!" And one of my twins said, "Please don't mom!" Pretty true of their little personalities.
The part that sucks is not so much of how you feel about my husband. But that you would say that to your son, who is a nice kid, and he would repeat it to my kids. My kids didn't deserve your opinion. They have enough on their plates. They are good kids, ask anyone.
One last thing. We can say "Oh, he fought for our country, how could you say that about him?" But really, mental illness for anyone, in any form, is awful. And we shouldn't be talking about humans like that at all. Using words like "psycho, crazy, nuts," doesn't do anything to help anyone. Words like that spread shame, stigma, and are just plain mean.
Your son is welcome at my house anytime. But I would be cautious of letting my children hang out with a kid who has parents that teach intolerance and hate.
It IS fun having a blog.